Make it Work

By Erika, The (Expectant) Bonus Mom Any Project Runway lovers out there might recognize Tim Gunn's famous phrase "make it work." He often said this to designers during crunch time - when they had to finish their garments ahead of a runway presentation.  This phrase is a signal to the designers that it is "go" time; … Continue reading Make it Work

Sorry, Not Sorry

By Erika, The (Expectant) Bonus Mom Hey everyone!  After a 1Q2019 hiatus, I'm so excited that The Mommicles is back! I know it's been a minute since you've heard from us. And, in a past life, I would probably apologize for that.  But today, I'm not.  Here's why.  I'm not sorry. Let me explain.  At … Continue reading Sorry, Not Sorry

They’re Not Your Real Kids (and Other Dumb Things People Say)

By Erika, The Bonus Mom I’m a step parent.  I know that.  I knew that being step parent was a very real possibility when Roger and I started dating.  In fact, that was his deal breaker when we first started to talk about being more than friends.  If I thought, for any reason at all, … Continue reading They’re Not Your Real Kids (and Other Dumb Things People Say)

Traditions

By Erika, The Bonus Mom I never thought much about traditions until I was about to get married.  Then, and my poor husband can attest, I wanted everything to be a tradition. It actually became this weird obsession of mine. "this could be a tradition or this" I would excitedly say about just about anything.  Exasperated one … Continue reading Traditions

Parenting Through Grief

Erika, The Bonus Mom My Mother-in-Love (what I call a mother-in-law) passed away 10 days before our wedding.  Blink.  Blink again.  Reread it.  Yes, she passed away 10 days before our wedding.  There is no easy way to talk about it.  Or drop the news.  Or prepare people for when I say it.  I don't … Continue reading Parenting Through Grief