By Serrano, The Dad Squad
We are in a redefining role. New dads [are consciously] teaching our sons to like what they want; and, that’s cool. I was raised off the “boys wear blue and girls wear pink” rules. Luckily, Cam’ron came through with the Pink Range Rover and our lives have never been the same!
I was starting to question my eldest son’s taste in [TV] shows. Then I came to the conclusion . . . He can watch whatever makes him happy. He started to get into Steven Universe. For those that don’t know, Steven Universe is the coming-of-age story of a young boy, Steven Universe, who lives with the Crystal Gems—magical, humanoid aliens named Pearl, Garnet, and Amethyst—in the fictional town of Beach City. Steven, who is half-Gem, has adventures with his friends and helps the Gems protect the world from their own kind. The themes of the series include love, family, and the importance of healthy interpersonal relationships.
It had so many underlining themes that I was a little nervous about how it would work with [my son’s] development. I mean, Steven’s mom had a stint where she liked the ladies but [eventually] settled for Steven’s father. So at one point in time, I’m like, “is he going to think that women pursuing women and men is cool?” Then I was like “yes, it is cool! People can do what makes them happy and he should respect that!” After that epiphany, any thoughts of me wanting to surround my son in “boy shows” died a terrible death.
Growing up, I watched Care Bears, She-Ra etc. However, if you asked me what I liked, I would say G.I. Joe, Transformers and He-Man. I went back and re-watched He-Man; and, when He-Man wasn’t He-Man, you can say he was kinda splashy. Now, in retrospect, that is all right. I have grown and I am glad for it. Now, I can say I’m really raising some well-rounded young men not confined to boy/girl shows or toys. I don’t know if I’m at a place yet where if my son wanted to wear a dress I’d be cool, but only time will tell. I guess this is the evolution of fatherhood. I’m just gonna let my sons watch and play with the toys they want, encourage them to think outside of gender norms and roles and be the best advocates for women they can be.
My Eldest Son’s Top 5 Favorite TV Shows
My Little Pony
All I am saying is this, let’s not project our thoughts unto our kids. These cartoons are just that, cartoons. Let them be just that and let your kids be just kids. Because even when I was feeling some type of way about my son watching “My Little Pony” he hit me with the “Trying a Bologna” and I was completely swayed. He’s my boy and he loves My Little Pony and wants to be a Toy Doctor, ninja dragon, song writer. And I’m trying to figure out how to make sure he’s supported in his goals.